i attended a support group this weekend. the discussion was around two questions:
1) how do you get support?
2) how do you keep yourself from receiving support?
for me- i get support by working with others. as far as stopping myself from receiving support, i think i don't allow the idea to filter in. i feel shame in asking for help. and i keep myself too busy sometimes to allow the thoughts that i might need help in.... it's a low down dirty shame that i struggle with asking for help.
i would like to ask you to weigh in on these questions.
2 comments:
I know you have to look beyond the 12-step paradigm, but I thought you hit it on the head. "Working with others" is also how I get support, if only because it gets me out of my head where the problems reside.
And I like "working with others" better than "helping others" because it's more of a two-way street. You get most of the help you need not because of what someone does for you, but because in the act of asking for help, you take a stance of humility and God gets to operate you your life. You stop blocking and interfering, trying to wring the results you want out of the situation. Likewise, in making yourself available to those you reach out, you do a lot of interior work that clear you defects from blocking a spiritual solution from taking hold.
But to answer your question, I get support from talking and listening. I block myself from it when my ego tells me I should do it myself, when I believe my own know-it-allness.
How do I get support? As do you and Marc, I receive a lot of support both internally and externally from the positive helping work I do with others. I also get support by opening myself up to possibilities and opportunites that present themselves; when I recognize the opportunities which are a fresh breeze that allows my spirit to expand to fill and perhaps stretch my potential.
How do I keep myself from receiving support? I doubt my potential. I doubt my worth to receive support. I stay too much in my head, listening to the voices that cut me down instead of seeking the messages, believeing the messages of support.
Shucks, I'm pretty poetic today.
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