m4m4life redux

i just met w/ a couple of guys to discuss where m4m4life goes next. it's all so interesting- this process of creating conversations around community in denver. there is passion and desire to make changes, but i am not sure there is yet agreement on what and where those changes should start. although, i think that all are in agreement that any change would really be beneficial. how does one get conversations started in the different tribes around the city about improving our lives, when so many are content? how does one generate interest in developing a safety net for substance abuse and mental health when so few really want to look at their own. if people are of the mind that something is "not my problem" then how do we crack into that. i mean, every problem is only six degrees of separation from each of us anyway isn't it? do we think we are immune to a turn of luck, or of bad decisions, or depression, or tragedy, or midlife crisis? when do we believe that these things are possible and even probable in most of our lives at one time or another? there is now a continuum of generations in our communities and it's about time we recognized this fact and started to work towards incorporating this into our psyches and our lifeplans. i don't mean that we want 60 year olds at gay bars- yuk..and i say yuk cuz a 60 year old man probably wouldn't want to be in a gay bar. i mean that 60 year old gay men are still vibrant, creative, hard working, industrious, inventive, with loads of life experience and knowledge about how to careen this trip called life. do we understand they were the first to experience a truer sexual freedom only to have it nipped in the bud with the onset of aids? how did they cope? when do we ask for their input? when do we nod to their experience? when do we honor their sacrifices? when do we utilize their worth? and can we begin to see that we are setting the stage for our own arrival?

jack's mannequin- another band i seem to like these days:

dark blue- have you ever been alone in a crowded room?